The Ethical Slut

James Ramey, in his wonderful book Intimate Friendships, documented his observations that nonmonogamy could facilitate the formation of what he described as kinship networks, communities bound together by the intimacies of their

— Book to look into

tyranny of hydraulics

— this made me chuckle

friend of ours, when she trips over some surprisingly intense emotional response, says, philosophically, “Oh well—AFOG,” which stands, she says, for “Another Fucking Opportunity for Growth.” Learning from one’s mistakes isn’t fun, but it’s way better than not learning at all.

you find out about something that you would like to add to your own repertoire, you can certainly learn to do it without wasting time trashing yourself for not already having known how.

if you don’t want to play bondage games with me, somebody else will—our relationship will not be less for it. What we share is valuable for what we share. Period.

To acquire a basic knowledge of sexual functioning and the sexual response cycle, we recommend strongly that you read one or several good books. Books about sex provide a lot of information—more than we can give you in a chapter—about how sex works and what you can do about it when it isn’t working as well as you’d like.